Author: The Awesome Archie Team

I know, I know!!! As a parent /carer, people saying this to me often led me to feeling more than a little frustrated!!! I remember thinking “I can’t even go to the loo in piece, how can I possibly find time for myself?”

Over time ( 15 years of being a parent) I have come to realise that “finding time for you” doesn’t actually mean the same to us as carers as it does for guardians of the neurotypical. There is no spa day or hen weekend. There are no romantic meals out for my hubby and I or sneaky child-free trips to London. This realisation , although it took a little while to grieve over, has freed us from the pressures of social norms.

Time for me can be watching a movie with the kids after school… even though the sink is full and the laundry is literally everywhere! Or perhaps painting something that fits my current mood. A lot of the time they are complete and utter failures, certainly not pieces I would be willing to share, but the process has cleared my head and given me space.

For our marriage, a firm bed time for the kids has saved us. We are not perfect, they are often up way too late watching yet another youtube life hack thingy 😉 but they know that we need to be left alone to just be adults. I am literally only talking about the hours between 9 and 11 BUT THAT 2 HOURS IS EVERYTHING!!!

Don’t worry about everyone else’s routine. Most people have NO IDEA about how testing being a full time carer can be. Let them do them and YOU DO YOU.

Oh and if all else fails… wine 😉

We have had some super exciting news today. In the next couple of weeks the Christchurch Library in Dorset will hold the Awesome Archie series for all children to enjoy! It’s so AWESOME to know that every child in the county will be able to access our stories free of charge 🙂 We have also informed them of our free downloadable colouring pages for them to use too. Feel free to check them out on a blog on our home page.

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Well, today has been a day that we never really ever believed we would get to.

Like a lot of children with ASD, food has always been a very complex issue for Arch. He has always had to be reviewed by the hospital, regularly being measured, weighed and having his blood pressure closely monitored. Most visits have been tough, with lots of support but strong advise and tips to keep pushing Arch to eat. Today, he has weighed in at the perfect weight for his height! FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER! He has managed to gain 11 pounds since his last visit and is now officially average!!!

Archie is hugely insulted by being called average 😉

This amazing change has undoubtedly been a result of Archie moving schools to a specialist setting. He has truly never loved life more and is finally comfortable . He has lots of friends who also have ASD and support staff that just get it!!!

Never give up hope, it took 13 years but we did it!!!

THANKYOU so, so much to EVERYONE who has donated to the Awesome Archie team to help improve the horrendous crisis in our Local food banks. Just one week ago , the shelves were looking very bare, your kindness will surely have helped to bulk their stock significantly!

The Priory school community, members of the Boscombe Salvation army band and friends family and neighbours have all chipped in to support this awesome cause.

WE ARE SO THANKFUL!